How To Dive Deep Into Your Life Mission Without Ruining Your Marriage

My first ever webinar is happening this Wednesday!

Bezalel and Rivka Malka Perlman


How to Dive Deep Into Your Life Mission Without Ruining Your Marriage supposes that you can do just that.  That you can actually ruin your marriage while trying to live your best self. There you are feeling energized, doing important work and while you are busy saving the world or “getting in touch with yourself” and your marriage is coming apart.

I’m about to share something really awkward with you. Sometimes when people meet me and my husband they just don’t get it.  They see me doing my ( my million and one) thing(s) leading groups and seminars.  Then they see him – calm, not spotlight seeking and a one on one sort of guy. And they jump to conclusions

What they expect when they hang out with us is that I run the show. They assume that I’m the it and he’s the sidekick. That my work takes precedence. Then they hang out with us and they see that nothing could be further from the truth. We’re partners and friends and we support each other – and though we’re different we LOVE our differences. One of our main goals in marriage is to build each other up.
So why do I bring this up? Because, after feeling really bad (Omg, you think I have a bad marriage?!!) I realized that people only assume this because that’s how it usually is.  More often than not, when one spouse grows, the marriage shrinks. It’s like the flip side of enlightenment is self righteousness. Or, to be kinder, things have changed and you just don’t know what to do with it.
I started to point fingers until I remembered that that was almost me! ( I’ll tell you all about it on Wednesday’s webinar.) I made so many mistakes and I learned so much. As a person who is constantly seeking to grow I have had thousands of opportunities to take the wrong route in my marriage. And sometimes I did – Oy vey!
 It’s so subtle. Because what you’re doing is actually amazing, so what could be wrong?
I’ve seen so many women  confused as they try to make sense of their growth and its impact on their relationship. I spoke to Shlomo Slatkin of The Marriage Restoration Project. and he knew exactly what I meant.  In his work counseling couples he’s seen this scenario time and time again. women are struggling – And we decided to do a webinar together.

Bezalel and Rivka Malka Perlman

Why I Have Stopped Shopping For New Clothes

Rivka Malka

Rivka Malka Clothing
This is about  how we look at fashion and how it has ceased to make sense to me and how I am so done with it.


I have been pondering the fashion industry and even just looking at how we get dressed. Every day we wear different clothes. For who? Why do we do that? We live in temperature controlled environments. Our clothes don’t need to be washed every day. We are not working in the field getting dirty. We change simply because we want to show up in the world in a different outfit. How crazy is that?

Essentially we are getting dressed for other people so that they will notice our outfit for half a minute. You may deny that – and I certainly did but if you give it logical thought, it’s just one long cycle of stress, dress, impress, repeat.

I honestly think that if the fashion industry would disappear we would all be happy and be more normal and have more money. Instead we are sold the status quo that we always need more. Says who?

Cartoons That Make You Smarter

Meet Rabbi David Aaron

Rivka Malka David Aaron

For too many reasons to count, my favorite place in the whole world is the Old City of Jerusalem. If I just sit still for a moment I am back there; Jews from every country and ethnicity converging together, tasting ice cream and falafel and most of all tasting home. Everyone there is family and every stone is the story of your life.

It was there that I met David Aaron. Well, I didn’t actually meet him in person then – that would come years later. There, I met him through his book, The G-d Powered Life. In the mystical ways of Old Jerusalem, I happened upon a man who happened to be his student who happened to have his books available and I happened to fall in love with them.

In a small nook on an ancient stone bench I read. And read. And read. And none of what I read felt new. But all of it made me feel new.

It’s like when your brain is oxygenated. You have clarity. Everything is sharp. Your mind is on fire and you know exactly what to do next.

I bought ten books.

I gave away nine.

I have lent out the one copy that I have left too many times to count. I even brought it with me when I went to train as a Life Coach. The training was on Shabbos and I wanted some Torah to learn. Over lunch break I sat with my fellow CTI members and we learned Kabbalah as explained by Rabbi David Aaron.

And now he has blown me away again. Constantly changing, constantly producing, he has found a new way to teach and it’s powerful! By using animation to illustrate the deepest concepts, it clicks effortlessly into your psyche. Cartoons are cool, cartoons are fun, and now, cartoons are really, really deep and mind blowing!

After a 3 minute video you can magically and effortlessly explain and understand G-d, the meaning of life and life after death. Don’t believe me? Watch them and see!

One thing that I love about Rabbi Aaron’s work is that its Universal. It speaks to everyone. I mean, how many Rabbis can speak about Kabbalah on E! Entertainment! That’s how truth works. It resonates with everyone.

Watch Rabbi Aaron’s videos – you’ll love his work and be amazed at how much it all makes gorgeous exquisite sense.

I posted a lot here in case you are snowed in:) Visit to his website for many more.

PS. I would highly recommend his book the G-d Powered Life. If I ever have an online store – that book is going to be in it!

PPS. I showed some of these to my kids – what a great learning tool! The depth kind of went over their heads but the message is there for when they need it.
After you watch the videos leave a comment and let me know which was your favorite!


How to Help Your Teen Who is Going Through Depression and Anxiety

Minky's first hand account


Depression affects everyone. When you are a parent of a child with depression you are actually also a case manager for a house full of people who are struggling. This is not your fault. This is not your child’s fault.

In this video Minky shares honestly telling parents – from her front row seat in the drama of depression, what kids need. We were prompted to make this video by the rising number of young teens who are struggling. At age 12, 13, 14 they are feeling lost and confused.

And their parents are often just as confused.

Compounding the confusion is the secrecy and shame and almost always, conflict with religion. When you feel like you don’t fit on the inside you stop trying to fit in on the outside. Sometimes it seems like there is no place left for these girls.

But navigating depression is like swimming through dirty water with clouded goggles. Nothing is clear. There is no path. It’s just you and the elements. You and your child. The two of you and G-d.

I offer here my own contribution to Minky’s stunning words.To see the video..

How I Almost Smashed Myself with My Fear

All about how your thoughts control your destiny.


“When you freak out – you smash the vessels.” This video is about how fear can change the direction of our destiny and totally mess up the very thing we’re trying to create. PLUS – the story of how I met and interviewed Carol Tuttle from Dressing your Truth!…

What about single women? Do they Matter?

Heck, yes!!! Read the exchange below to hear more.

single ladies

click hereComing up next week on Jan 4 is the Art of Womanhood Workshop. The workshop

has had a great response. But one woman was NOT so happy. This is a message that I received on Friday … and this is the answer:

Hi RM! Sorry to bother you erev yontif, but after watching your YouTube video about the women’s conference I found myself grumbling internally. I have an issue which I have brought up to Rabbis and teachers alike, many times over. 
There are countless places out there that strive to help Jewish wives and mothers be the very best Jewish wives and mothers they can be, but there is so very little out there for those of us already struggling with singlehood. No one teaches us in HS or seminary how to be a great Jewish woman sans husband or children.
We are all taught that the role of a Jewish woman is defined by the home that she builds… and I believe in that paradigm one hundred percent. But what happens when G-d doesn’t bless us with the gifts we dream of? What and who are we supposed to be?? I am not bitter and angry, but I am admittedly frustrated….


[TODAY] Join the Fun!!

Ten hours of Chanuka Entertainment! ( I'm the host!!)


Hi Everyone, I’m writing to you from Monsey, New York where I have butterflies in my stomach from what is about to happen!

In three hours I will be hosting a live telethon with my dear brother Benzion Klaztzko, founder of! We’ll be having musicians, games, inspirational speakers and Menorah lighting  – all day long!

Here’s the info and link to tune in. TODAY, Dec 6 12:0opm- 10:00pm on LIVEJUDAISM.COM

Watch the videos below to get a taste of what’s about to happen!

PS Late breaking news! Our telethon is taking off! TORAHANYTIME.COM is streaming us!!!

PPS Late, late breaking news!!!! HIDABROOT Israel is also carrying our show!!!

PPS My stomach is settling down! Clearly G-d is loving this idea!!! Woo Hoo!

Leave me a comment below and let me know if you’ll be tuning in!! on Read More to watch the videos!