Where Did My Zing Go? The Dying Art of Womanhood.

What happened to having fun?!

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Have you ever asked yourself “Where did my zing go? “Why am I so tired –  dragging through the day and my responsibilities?”

You know what I mean – it’s when you joke about how old you are even though you’re not remotely old. And you say these jokes to make it okay that you feel so disconnected from your younger self.

When was the last time you  felt simply beautiful and worthy without the voice of the inner critic interfering?

Behind The Scenes at the Healing Retreat! ( Plus Pics)

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“Welcome to Rivka Malka’s Dream, said Esther, as we sat by the bonfire on the first night of the Retreat. Over the next few days I repeated that line many, many times:
When I saw women with sketch books and watercolors sitting in clusters painting and talking; when I saw women coaching one another, healing, growing; when I saw women dancing, shaking off the stress and letting go completely – I knew I was seeing my dream.
When I planned this retreat I had visions. Visions of women in circles, visions of a Paint, Wine and Dance Party, visions of sharing my story and hearing stories and rewriting the script for a stronger, lighter future. And with the help of the Almighty these visions came true.
Day 1 – We set up in anticipation for the women’s arrival. Carefully we laid out the notebooks and paint like the first day of kindergarten where everything is brand new and brimming with possibilities. The table was a sea of Crayola yellow.
In the other corner I set up my jewelry line. Amidst artistic vases and bronze candles I debuted the colorful treasures I’ve been holding on to. This would be the first time women would see them – Would they like them? By the end of the first day every piece but two were gone. ( I will try to have more in by Chanuka.) It was just so seamless and wonderful.

How Dressing Your Truth Changed My Life [Video]

FREE Beauty Course Giveaway! FUN!!

Rivka Malka Dressing Your Truth

If you’ve read my old blog posts and or you’ve seen my How to Dress Modest Bohemian video you know that Dressing Your Truth changed my life. In this video I tell you the WHOLE story.

 It transformed me. 

You know,everyone wants to look good. What if there was a way that you could know exactly what to buy, exactly what would look good on you, exactly which colors and fabrics would make your face glow and exactly how to find them?

That’ awesome, right?

When I was doing headwrapping work and traveling all around the US, I would watch faces light up as I dressed women in the colors most suited to their type. Sometimes the crowd would literally gasp in pleasure as I would choose the perfect scarf for each particular woman.

And I would always tell them “Ladies, go look up Dressing Your Truth. This is just the tip of the iceberg. You know how I know the perfect scarf for you?  Because I learned this fabulous information from Carol Tuttle.”

I would write Dressing Your Truth and Carol Tuttle on countless slips of paper. The pleasure that women got as being recognized for their own Beauty Type was priceless and I wanted them to have more of it.

If you don’t know your Beauty Type yet, today is your lucky day – Carol is offering her Online Beauty Profiling course for FREE for my readers. You’re going to have so much fun when you find out your Beauty Type. It’s liberating – awesomikating ( new word) and this cool, inside out journey of self discovery that gives you a whole new set of tools.

Just one thing  before you click on the video link –  I want to hear EVERYTHING! What Type of Beauty are you? Did it surprise you? How do you feel? This is so much fun! Just click below and you’ll find out!

Fight For Your Dreams – The Power of Choice

I Am A Fighter - How You Can Be Too

Fight For Your Dreams

Today I want to talk about FIGHT. FIGHT is what happens when you are FINISHED being a victim to circumstance. Fight is what I discovered just last week and it’s what I’m spreading like a fire breathing dragon.

Last week I had an encounter. I wish I could share the details but in the name of protection I can’t. Suffice it to say that this “casual” encounter was something that made me very uncomfortable. The person left and I stood there. A deep rumble came up from within me. “Noooo mooorrre!” it roared.

In a flash of clarity that was long overdue I realized what I needed to do. I saw my part in things. But more than that – in that exact moment I gave up all willingness to be a victim. On. Any. Level.

Read this post to find out how I got my FIGHT on and how you can too.

Mess, Stability and the Elusive Balance

"I'm in Way Over My Head and I'm Okay With That"


I am a creative person. And I love that. But you know what  gets to me? As much as I love all the fun  I know that stability is important. And this makes me crazy. Because there are amazing things to do in this world and they don’t always fit into a neat schedule. And my question is, as much as there is value in order, isn’t there is so much value in flexibility and  in enjoying the moment?  Isn’t there so much life in creating?  So what if things get a little nuts.

Here’s the thing, in the world of art, I’m a mixed media collage, definitely not a still life. I’m a little bit of a mess.

Today I had a great conversation with a fellow coach. Before today, my mind would use that phrase to berate me. “You’re a mess! Everything is chaotic!

It was a weapon of shame.

But not today.

Today I learned something cool; Maybe I am a mess. But maybe, (and here’s the cool part) the fact that I can notice that is a sign of something important.

Today, I’m letting go of conflict and learning how its ALL possible.

Transformation Life Coaching Through Writing

How it works, what to write and where you'll get.

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Writing is a strange thing. You would think that you know your thoughts –  after all they’re in your head! And yet, when you sit down to write you find out things you never knew.

How does that work? If you didn’t know them, where did they come from?

I like to think of it like this. We are souls, connected to infinite knowing. Yet in our daily life its easy to step over that. We focus on survival and accomplishment and the accompanying ego and fears. When we write however,  we are one step closer to hearing the soul, to hearing ourselves.

All day long we are getting input.  There is no stop button on life. And there is no stop button on our brain. So what do we do?

What we do is we become experts at filtering. We filter out anything that inhibits us from going about our day. We take in just enough input to give us energy and information for the next thing.

This is healthy, it’s called functioning. But what happens to the rest of the information?

What happens to those thoughts is up to us. We can ignore them and miss out on what we know, or we can get deeper… Click more to see the video and get the link for a heart wrenching new blog.

You’re Invited to a Creative Retreat

The Wholeness and Healing Retreat - A hands on experience of bonding, discovery and art.

Rivka Malka Creative Arts Retreat

I have a present for you! It’s a giant, colorful gift in a huge package with bows and ribbons. Its gorgeous,meaningful, will last forever and it has your name on it!

Its a vacation!

In just two months, from Nov 1-3 at the Pearlstone Center in Maryland, I’ll be leading a creative arts and healing retreat for just 30 women.

The Mission.
To give a huge and generous gift to women.
To give women a time to reconnect with their essential selves.
To create a safe and energizing space for growth and healing.
To nurture and encourage women’s natural creativity.
To increase support and sisterhood.

What is it?
he Wholeness and Healing Retreat is a creative,
exploratory hands on, fun healing experience designed for you!
We’ll embark on the Retreat as healing adventure using writing and art to chronicle this journey.

We’ll also be using some secret powers!

1. The power of women coming together
2. The power of letting go and having fun!
3. The power of creative expression.
4. The power of Torah learning.
Click MORE to read all about it!