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  1. Cassie
    August 31, 2012 @ 2:51 pm

    It’s so funny how a uniform can cause so much pondering. Mormons spend 2 years on a mission and they too have a uniform. White shirt with a suit and tie. It’s easy to spot them because where there is one, there is another (they travel in pairs). There are entire stores dedicated to your mission suit. I remember thinking that was so ridiculous because I would have a hard time wearing the same thing everyday. Then I realized I do wear the same thing every day. My uniform, while not as obvious, is there. Jeans, a tshirt with another layer underneath, and usually a jacket. Rarely will you find I break from that. Yet, I don’t define myself by it. To me, it’s just clothes that allow me to get through my day without being distracted by them. I try to remind myself of that whenever I catch myself being weirded out by something like that. So odd how something so simple (and hopefully distraction free for the wearer) can cause such a visceral reaction!

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    • RivkaMalka
      August 31, 2012 @ 3:24 pm

      You are so perceptive!

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  2. Cassie
    August 31, 2012 @ 2:56 pm

    Those boys and their dancing is impressive!

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  3. Stephanie
    August 31, 2012 @ 5:11 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing. I loved the video and your explanation and thoughts on this. What i have found to be my self truth was that G-D made the rainbows did He not? So why not wear color if it is pleasing to the Almighty and He Himself made even nature colorful? That’s the attitude i have taken on with my tichel, why not take it on in the clothes we wear. I can understand if the dress code is such a way at Yeshiva, however if my family wants to wear color i fully support it. i can only imagine how much fun your first shopping trip to get color shirts with your husband was :). It is quite possible your neighbors were indeed thinking that (i know in my rebellious stage i did it) and i think you handled it beautifully and that they were respectful of you is great (of course it probably didn’t hurt you feeding them)! and your son has a wonderful smile either way, but he does look pretty smart in his dress clothes.

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  4. Marta
    August 31, 2012 @ 5:51 pm

    I love your balanced approach!
    In a world gone so off kilter, it’s refreshing to see balance.
    We represent HaShem in all we do. People watch us all the time and sadly when they see people going off one way or another, they associate that with G~d. He is centered and so must we be also.
    He must love variety – look at the different colors and patterns in animals, plants and flowers.

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    • RivkaMalka
      September 4, 2012 @ 6:15 am

      Great comment! thank you!

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  5. Lisa Eggers
    September 1, 2012 @ 12:08 pm

    That smile on your son’s face says it all! You can’t fake that 🙂 That’s a boy you would take seriously! And nice job with the neighbors. Instead of a bad reaction, you planted a seed in their hearts. Great post!

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  6. Velma
    September 4, 2012 @ 9:35 am

    That video cracks me up. My son played it about 3 times a day almost every day for a month last year. He really loves to study Torah now that he knows he can look and act cook AND study Torah. This summer he tried to grow his hair out to look like the young man in the red shirt. I had to cut it off for school, but he did try.

    Your son is adorable.

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  7. ksil
    September 4, 2012 @ 3:13 pm

    I would have loved to see a more critical look at the dress code. About surpressing of personality, or inability to express individualism or forcing the group to fall within strict guidelines or even further (as some pointed out in the comments) cult-like behavior – ala moermanism.

    Dressing in this uniform has taken on a life of its own and has no source in jewish code or the torah.

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    • RivkaMalka
      September 5, 2012 @ 3:14 am

      Thanks so much for your comment! I loved it. And I know all too well what you mean. There’s a terrible frustration looking around and seeing distrotions that are considered mainstreamed.Your comment evoked a question in me. Why didn’t I take a more critical approach? I answered it on today’s blog post. Thank you!

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