I saw this gem on the bulletin board at a therapists office. I hope it helps you as much as it helped me.
When I feel responsible FOR others…
carry their feelings
I am concerned with
I am a manipulator.
I expect the person to live up to my expectations.
When I feel responsible TO others
I show empathy
high self esteem
I am concerned with:
relating person to person
I believe that if I just share myself ,
the other person has enough to make it.
I am a helper -guide.
I expect the person to be responsible for himself and his own actions.
I can trust and let go