By Rivka Perlman

April 30, 2013

When I Feel Responsible For Others

I saw this gem on the bulletin board at a therapists office. I hope it helps you as much as it helped me.

When I feel responsible FOR others…

I fix

protect

rescue

control                                                                                       drained (10-11)

carry their feelings

don’t listen

I feel…tired ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬†

anxious

fearful

liable

I am concerned with                                                                                                

the solutions

answers

circumstances

being right

details

performance

I am a manipulator.

I expect the person to live up to my expectations.

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When I feel responsible TO others

I show empathy

encourage

share

confront

level                                                                                           energized

am sensitive

listen

I feel…relaxed

free

aware

high self esteem

I am concerned with:

relating person to person

feelings

the person

I believe that if I just share myself ,

the other person has enough to make it.

I am a helper -guide.

I expect the person to be responsible for himself and his own actions.

I can trust and let go

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